Loving Ourselves Enough to Save Ourselves

We become entwined in our partners sexual energy and even under non violent conditions it is difficult to break away. But we must. It is only in breaking away that we begin to see who we are. The cloud of fear has been removed and we are not second guessing every step that we make. We are free to Be.

We come up with so many excuses not to leave. Some of the reasons that keep us in an abusive relationships are: what will my family and friends say and think, it's going to be so hard starting over, I don't really want to keep him/her away from the kids. The reason to remain with an abuser does not exist. Remaining keeps you from truly living the life that you came here to live and if there are children present, it teaches them to become an abuser or to believe that abusing someone is okay. And the cycle continues.

There is help available. You must seek it. People devote their lives to helping others get out of abusive relationships. Allow them to help you. Yes, it's tough realizing that you chose this partner, but you did. Getting help will allow you to grow in ways that being abused has not permitted. Over time you will value your own self-worth. No, it will not be easy, but it will be worth it. And when you become involved with a intimate partner again you will have the tools to make a better choice of who you allow into your space.